Beauty of Marriage

January 13, 2012

Marriage

I happened upon a great article yesterday about how our society has developed unrealistic expectations for marriage.  In our self-focused culture, couples are entering into marriage anticipating fulfillment without sacrifice.  People are expecting their needs to be wholly met, yet ironically unwilling to deny themselves—wanting a low-maintenance partner who requires little from them.   This is a recipe for failed marriage.

Drake and I celebrate sixteen years of marriage today.

Like so many, our life together has been incredibly challenging.  We have faced unmet dreams, unfulfilling work, financial instability, unforeseen setbacks, and hopes deferred by disappointment …not to mention intense suffering, loss or our beloved boy, and on-going grief.

Life does not look anything like we imagined it when we tied the knot with anticipation in January 1996.  We don’t have four kids.  Drake isn’t yet working as a university professor.   We don’t own a house.   So on and so forth.  And we have certainly failed at meeting each other’s needs as well.

Yet somewhere along the line, it became apparent to us both that the beauty of marriage arises not out of great circumstances or having our partner fulfill our every desire, but instead by offering all of ourselves, including our brokenness to one another and giving each other the space to struggle and fail and not be who we thought they were or wish they would be.

This is the grace God extends to us.  That although we struggle and fail and are not all he wants us to be, he loves, forgives, and accepts us.  Therein, the hard times of marriage have the potential to allow us to experience more of God’s transforming love…at a human level (Keller).

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8 Comments on “Beauty of Marriage”

  1. Angela Park Says:

    Perfect!

  2. Debbie Hogan Says:

    You are very wise, sweet friend.

  3. Michal Ann Says:

    You are blessed abundantly with each other and with the LORD. I’m very thankful for your beautiful partnership. Happy trails! (Do you remember that song?)

    Ecclesiastes 4:9-11

    Two are better than one,
    because they have a good return for their labor:
    If either of them falls down,
    one can help the other up.
    But pity anyone who falls
    and has no one to help them up.
    Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
    But how can one keep warm alone?

  4. Anya Says:

    Happy Anniversary… Great photo… And a really good reminder – the best marriage is one where both partners are willing to work and sacrifice. I really forget this sometimes.

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